My Mistrust of Energy Healing Was Right: The Consent Line Everybody Needs to Talk About

Energy work without consent is intrusion. I learnt that the hard way. It can leave you doubting yourself, even when nothing “obvious” happened. It can pull you away from your own inner authority — and into someone else’s field.
When you are sensitive, a a subtle feeling is your intuition speaking very precisely. Because sometimes what you need is not another method, but a deeper return to what is yours.

The origin of my mistrust

At some stage in my evolution, I knew I needed therapy. And I knew that conventional therapy was not going to do it for me. Yet… I was scared to go to an energy healing practitioner, and for a good reason — I intuitively felt that an energy practitioner can enter “me”, fully and completely, and I didn’t want that. And… I didn’t trust them, that they wouldn’t do that.

You see, in my Human Design, I have a few energetic portals activated that make it naturally easy for me to enter “you”. I can read energy. I always could. But — to activate these gifts, I had to learn it by going through the shadow — which is not being able to say no, or discern, when someone else enters my field. Feeling responsible for others and taking care of the emotional needs that I intuitively read all over — in animals, plants, and other humans.

I spent years feeling disconnected from self — sensitive, aware, and still not safe.

When sensitivity has no boundary

Animals — I stopped eating meat at the age of 6. It was impossible for me to eat something that I could feel so deeply and intimately. I felt each day which one of our chickens was sad, which one was a bit frustrated, which one was happy, which one was playful, and so on. I could walk by a cow in a field and I received everything that cow was holding in her energy field in that moment. It was overwhelming as a child, yet also normal; I didn’t know other people wouldn’t have these transmissions.

What I did not know either was that it was not my responsibility to react to these messages. I was an animal welfare advocate and cried for nature and plants being trampled down. I was overwhelmed with grief and sadness, and I tried to shut it all down. Plants and animals were my biggest allies. Humans became more and more complicated for me to deal with, with all their unprocessed emotions and emotional trauma. It was very painful for me to be in the world, and I created a couple of behavioural strategies that were difficult to get rid of later. To grow up, I had to shut down most of my portals that were receiving these transmissions. But I only managed to close them a little. I was growing up being the perfect “victim” for emotional abuse, and I struggled deeply as a teenager.

Boundaries are embodiment

But that’s the beauty of evolution, of waking up while growing up — I worked through these boundary issues. Today, my boundaries are very strong, very clear, and very strict. And they have to be, otherwise I couldn’t do the work I do.

Soul embodiment isn’t a concept — it’s a boundary you can feel.
This is what identity beyond conditioning looks like: recognising what is yours and what isn’t.

Why am I telling you all this? What’s that got to do with energy healing practitioners? Well, to pick up the thread from the beginning of this story — as I was waking up and started working through conditioning and childhood traumas, I knew I couldn’t do this alone. And I knew, sensitive as I am, I needed to work on the subtle energetic layers. Yes, I needed emotional therapy and body therapy, but I also needed energy healing. A lot.

Luckily, when I found regression therapy, I found the one therapy that held it all. And I didn’t think I was going to change so much that five years later, I was going to do energy healing — the one thing I never wanted for myself, the one thing I never trusted anyone to be “good enough” for me.

Why energy work needs consent

Energy healing requires the strongest and clearest boundaries of all the therapies I know of. When I read energy, I can read it all. I can go as deep as needed; I can literally see everything from your past lives to childhood abuse to current life issues — everything. That is a lot of information about someone, and it is too much information.

I explained earlier that I closed the portals for myself in order to be able to grow up “normally”. Well, when I opened them again, I opened them carefully. I did not do any drug-induced opening, which prevents a so-called “spiritual emergency”, and I did not push myself to be “awakened” or “healed”, to be the next Western shaman — I simply allowed the portals to open little by little, based on my clients and the trust they gave me, based on what I was asked to look at. In 2022, I started channelling for the first time with the support of one of my former regression therapy trainers, and in 2024 I started channelling for clients.

Today, I am so grateful for each and every single client that allowed me to do this for the first time. I am grateful for friends and friends of friends that allowed me to open “more” and see whatever I want to see, and I am grateful for Andy and his wife Reena, who taught me techniques to not only release energies, but also to strategically harness energies — and not only help others, but more importantly, know how to help myself. Over and over again — because this work requires an ongoing evolution. There is no end point.

And when I say “help” others, I don’t help. You always help yourself. I transmit information and with that, your frequency can shift easier and you help (or heal) yourself. My work is transmission, not healing. I recognising patterns, I name what’s true, and then I am letting you choose.

Ethics, distance, and the digital world

An energy practitioner that is also consciously using any of their clairsenses can, if they want, see everything in you. Unless you have a strong boundary and your energy protection is stronger than their power of entering you, they can see everything. And they can do that at any time they want, over distance, just with a picture of you.

Can you see why it is so important to have strong energy protection from 2026 onwards? Our images, high-resolution images, are everywhere. Our names and even voices are everywhere. I can look at an image and listen to a video, and I can read that person. I can connect to them right now if I wanted to. But I am not doing that. Never. Ethics always come first: I only connect with consent, and my work is contained to the session container.

Let me first explain why I would never do it. First, this is why the beginning of this story is important: I don’t do it because I went through the shadow of these gifts. I went through the side of the “victim” — the one that is being entered — and I know, in my own body, how that feels. It is abuse. It is the most uncomfortable and difficult feeling. And it was unconscious that I let people enter. Even more uncomfortable.

I went through this, I worked through this, and as I got out on the other end, I knew that the “entering without consent” is a no-go. This is where, in the past, black and white magic were discerned. Black magic was entering without consent. White magic was energy healing from a high frequency, with consent.

This is higher self guidance in practice: consent, clarity, and energetic truth. Today, I follow inner authority before I follow someone’s method.

Baseline sensitivity vs “working”

Secondly, reading energy consciously takes energy from me. I still have a baseline of “reading everything” that I could never shut off, and I won’t be able to — nor do I want to. That baseline is a bit like smelling or hearing something. When you walk through a restaurant, it is not possible to smell nothing. However, it is a decision to just identify that you smell pizza because it is obvious, or to pause and start analysing what the other smells are and if there is pizza with onions or just plain margherita.

The first — smelling pizza — is what I am not shutting off, and I can’t. I walk past someone who has just lost their loved one, I feel sadness (so do most people, by the way). I can feel it, I know it. If it’s strong, I get the message that they have lost someone (not just the information of sadness). And I stop there. That information so far did not take any energy from me; that’s how my system works. It informs me about my environment and it keeps me safe.

However, to then read more from that information — that’s when I start “working”. Now it needs my focus. Now other areas of my brain are starting to get involved, and it is a bit like typing this article — as I am typing, I cannot hold my cup of tea at the same time. It is a focused activity, and energy reading is the same. It takes energy from me.

I do this with pleasure for my clients, or friends that ask me to do it — after all, it is what I am here for. It is part of my purpose in this lifetime to bridge information from different worlds, and I am truly excited and happy to do so. But for my own sake, I need to be selective and careful where I offer my energy.

So it is strongly a no-go to read energy (or work with energy) for anyone who hasn’t consciously asked me to do so — out of respect for that person — and it is also a no-go out of respect for myself. It is a protection for me and my energy, and it is the protection of someone else that I am not challenging.

Discernment without paranoia

And by the way, sometimes people “want” you to know that, for example, they are not OK. Energetically, this information feels like energy that “enters”. This is the kind of energy I am most aware of from my upbringing to not engage with. There needs to be consent on both sides, and it is abusive to want to have other people feel you/hear you/work with you when you do not have their consent that they want to be in that role.

My intuitive mistrust towards energy healing practitioners was perfect and still is. Yes, these days I can read people easily, and if I need an energy healing practitioner that I do not know, I will read their energy. I will check that they can actually do what they say. But here is why this is not abusive: anyone offering a service is giving permission to check that they can hold that promise.

If someone tells you they can climb up that tree to save your cat that is stuck up there, you will want to make sure they know how to climb. If that person is in a wheelchair or has no arms, you will probably doubt their ability to climb up that tree. It is OK to check the physique with your eyes if someone tells you they can do something for you — it is also OK to Google someone’s credentials. And it is OK for me to read their energy if they tell me they are an energy healer.

However, I will only read the layer of the energy that gives me that information. And this is important again — you are not going to ask the tree-climbing person if they know how to bake bread. That’s not relevant to save your cat. And I am not reading if that person has any past lives as a queen, nor am I interested in their current emotional drama. All I am interested in is: do they hold the right frequency for the energy work that I need? I don’t even care to read what kind of energy work they can do, for whom, how good they are, etc. I only need to know: for what I need in this moment, are they good enough? Point. Nothing else. No boundaries crossed.

I once had a client asking me to check a healer for her — here I have permission to connect with my client’s energy. And through the energetic link from my client to that practitioner, I am reading what’s in that connection and how that would influence my client, and only that. I can give an answer whether that energy healer will raise my client’s frequency or not. I can see charlatans from a mile away, and I can also read if they are working with manipulation, energetic intrusion, distorted influence — as this would lower my client’s frequency. Hence it is directly related to the conscious request, and I have access to that information.

What integration actually looks like

My boundaries are very strict and very clear. It keeps me from burning out, and it keeps me “sane”. Too much information easily tips over into psychosis, into ego definition and power games. All yucky subjects, and we have had enough of this on Earth. So I may not be the one walking on this planet helping everything and everyone, but I keep my authenticity and respect. What I ask from others, I give back to others.

I do not read energy unless I am asked to. And just because someone or something is ill does not mean that is an invitation for me to enter their field. I do make exceptions to that rule when it comes to animals and plants, as they obviously cannot give me a call or write an email — but I do not automatically enter a field and start working and changing what seems “not OK”.

If there is a human involved — say a pet animal or a tree in someone’s garden — I get asked from the human, so I have consent to enter the field. Then I ask the animal or plant’s higher self if I have permission to enter and read the energy. If I get a no, that’s it. A no is a no.

If I am walking in a forest and I get a strong sense of a tree that is ill or unhappy, again, I first enter the field of the forest and ask for permission to read the ecosystem. Only then do I connect to the tree and ask the tree if it wants me to do any work.

My personality self that is highly influenced by my human emotions, of course, finds this very difficult. But since I went through this journey of knowing no boundaries as a victim, and with my spiritual understanding that the human brain only has a tiny bit of knowledge, I keep my boundaries up. And sometimes — very often, even — what seems “wrong” to us makes sense in the collective and needs to be that way. So I never, ever, read energy unless invited to do so.

Spiritual awakening integration is when insight becomes lived behaviour — especially boundaries. Sometimes what you need is soul purpose clarity through embodiment, not more information. Living from the soul requires discernment, not devotion to a practitioner.

How to choose a practitioner without abandoning yourself

If you are looking to choose an energy healing practitioner and you don’t know the person, trust your intuition. Check them out as you would with anyone else — what they write about themselves, their social media, their credentials, testimonials, etc. Do the due diligence work.

Then, take a moment to connect with yourself. If you meditate, meditate for a while, then connect with your higher self and ask for guidance. Ask a simple YES or NO question, and depending on your inner authority (you can find your inner authority in your Human Design chart, but very likely, if you are connected to yourself, you listen to your inner authority already anyway) and see whether you are getting a positive or negative response.

If you work with oracle cards, meditate, connect, and then ask the cards to give you an idea what it would mean to engage with that practitioner — then take a decision from there.

Personally, before I was able to read energy consciously, I always wanted to talk to a person that I would book any kind of service from. If I could see their face, even better, but I at least wanted to hear their voice. If there was resonance, then that was a yes for me. If I felt yucky, uncomfortable, or just not OK, then it was a no.

I remember once I had an osteopath that had amazing credentials and I was even referred to him. I really wanted him to be “my person”. Yet, from the beginning, I didn’t trust him fully. I wanted to, but there was something in me that said “no”.

After a year of seeing him, there was one session where he got very frustrated at me (needless to say, it was the last session). He threw his folder to the side and he said to me, “You are closed, I cannot read you, I cannot get the information I need.”

His outburst, his frustration, confirmed everything my intuition told me since the beginning — he was not “good enough” for me. He might be a perfect practitioner for others, but the fact that my higher self decided to put such a strong energetic boundary around my energy field that this seasoned practitioner burst out in frustration was all I needed to know for a clear no — finally. To be clear, I wasn’t “consciously closing down”. I wanted him to succeed. I wanted to “be helped”. But my higher self knew he couldn’t do that. As much as my mind wanted to, everything else said no.

I am telling you this last story because I want to encourage you to choose with your intuition. Yes, let the mind do the due diligence; it is important. But then let your intuition decide. Trust it. Don’t waste a whole year and a lot of money, like I did. The right person will unlock something in you, not get frustrated at you.